The Dirty Details of Eloping
The good old Google defines eloping as…
“To elope means to get married without telling anyone, especially the parents and families. While the technical definition of eloping is "running away," it has a slightly more nuanced definition in wedding parlance. To elope may also suggest that you forgo a formal wedding and elope for the ceremony instead”
Elopements are so much more than a Google definition these days, elopement styles obviously change with the seasons and the years. We are finding more and more elopements are very intimate with the inclusion of a few family members, a couple close friends, or best of all, your dogs! As we like to say, your wedding is exactly that, YOUR WEDDING. So we are here to pass along the dirty details we have learned along the way to help you elope how you want to!
If you decide that you want to share your decision for eloping, it may be best to inform your parents first. This can help them understand why and keep them included in your plans. This is not to say they need to be involved in every detail, but you can let them in on some little secrets to make them feel more included. Let mom come help you try on dresses, let your sister know the color of your flowers, let dad have a heart to heart with your soon to be hubby! (He may need some advice about marrying into the family HA!) After the ceremony, let your immediate family be the first to see the pictures. Spend time with them doing things you love together, go to a wine tasting, take a horseback ride, just spend some quality time with them. We like to look at it this way, do you want your favorite aunt to travel 500 miles to say hello to you once during the reception (even if that happens?) or would you rather make a fun road trip to visit her and act like a tourist in her town? Just be forthright and honest with them if you do decide to let them in on a secret, it will get you a lot further.
Ok, but what if you don’t want to tell anybody anything? WELL THEN DON’T! We will say this until we are blue in the face, it is YOUR WEDDING. If your decision is to do everything privately (I don’t like using the word secretly, secrets hurt sometimes) then keep it private, just between the 2 of you and the couple of vendors you will have on your team. If word leaks, this may cause some hurt and drama. Surprising your family with a marriage should be a joyous thing. They should want to celebrate with you when you share the good news! When you return from your honeymoon, you need some time alone to celebrate as a married couple, let your family know first. It may be nice to offer the options of having a big family dinner or a backyard BBQ with your closest people when you are ready. You also do not have to do any of this. You can play it cool, and keep it as simple as your little heart desires.
Eloping is not for everyone, but it has become a more popular option (again, thanks 2020! No, really thanks, we love elopements!) these days. Having this type of ceremony or celebration is a great option for couples who want to avoid the craziness of a traditional wedding and to focus solely on your relationship. When making the decision, lean on each other, make a pros and cons list, go with your heart, whatever you decide, it will be right for you!
As always we are here to answer questions, as 2 Colorado native gals, we love to give you advice on all things mountainy, bad-assy, and pretty!
Photography: Cali Frankovic Photography
Floral: Hop Rabbit Flowers
Officiant: Marlene Fisher